Monday’s are usually reserved for Marriage Mondays and sharing tangible tools to help married and soon-to-be-married couples thrive in their marriages, and as much as I enjoy sharing on that subject, today has to be different. Today is my birthday :-). On Saturday, I started celebrating by doing the most responsible thing ever. I went to the DMV! My driver’s license was just about to expire, and it was time to renew it after about 10 years with this ID card I’ve grown so attached to. And while I sat there in the DMV waiting for my name to be called and held on this card that I’ve known since I was 18 years old, I started thinking about the places we’ve been, the people we’ve met, the heartbreak we’ve felt, and everything in between. Now, I’m not trying to get all sentimental over a piece of plastic (although surrendering it to the DMV teller made me get a little weepy, but I digress). But that very “adult” act made me reminisce about the last 10 years of my life–the ups, the downs, the bumps, the loop-de-loops and everything else. What a roller coaster it has been! There’s so much I would have done differently, and also so much I wish I could do all over again. But there’s no sense in trying to live in the past. All we can do is keep moving forward the best we possibly can. What we CAN do, is use our life experiences to be a blessing to others. So that’s what I’m hoping to do today. I’m sharing 28 lessons I would tell my 18-year-old self and all of you reading this!
- Have fun.
- Try not to get stressed out about your life’s purpose–it will be revealed in due time.
- Always wear a watch to an interview. Punctuality is everything, and looking at your phone for the time is NOT a good look.
- Allow yourself to have a broken heart, but don’t allow it to break you.
- It’s okay to hustle, but give yourself some grace every now and then.
- Good friends are hard to come by, but be sure to keep best ones closest to your heart.
- Treat yo self to a glass of wine. You deserve it! (Just make sure you’re 21 first)
- Make sure you’re in the company of people who are challenging you emotionally, mentally, and even spiritually. Life is too short to be complacent.
- You’re never too old for sleepovers.
- You’re also never too old to dance in the rain.
- Find someone that you can be vulnerable with. Don’t hide how you feel from them. It could potentially save your life.
- On the other hand, be that same person for someone else. Sit with them at lunch when they’re all alone and be their friend. (Thanks for being my friend, Josh <3) It could potentially save their life.
- Try one new thing every day.
- Learn how to change a tire. Trust me, that skill with come in handy someday.
- Start saving your money as soon as you can.
- You don’t have to do everything that everyone else does. It’s totally okay to be weird. Just be you!
- When you try on clothes in a fitting room, don’t think about how you look in the clothes–think about how the clothes look on YOU!
- Don’t dress for how you feel now. Dress the way you WANT to feel later.
- If we can adapt to the many changes on Facebook over the years (and there are MANY), we can adapt to change in our own lives. Embrace the change.
- Turn off the phone and be present! The world in front of you deserves your full attention.
- It’s okay to sing the wrong notes at karaoke. Yes, people may laugh, but it’s all in good fun!
- A career switch is not the end of the world. It’s just the beginning of something that could fuel your fire for the rest of your life!
- Family is everything. Love them as hard as you can, and as often as you can. You’ll never know how blessed you are until they’re gone. (I miss you, mom!)
- Do not spend money that you do not have.
- Love languages will CHANGE YOUR LIFE. If you haven’t figured out your love language, do it NOW! (Read the book too, if you can!)
- If you fall, get back up and try again. There’s nowhere to go from here but up.
- Find the person who makes you feel like 10 million bucks, even when you don’t have makeup on and feel that you look a hot mess. Once you’ve found that person, cherish them for the rest of your life.
- You are fearfully and wonderfully made. You are beautiful, smart, kind, and important. Your life has value.
I hope you enjoyed these little nuggets of wisdom from me to you!! I’m off to enjoy a sweet birthday with some of my favorite people. But until next time, enjoy a little (embarrassing) time warp from way back when and now! Have a great day, friends!!
Yup, that’s me at 5 years old with a mic in my hand. Once a performer, always a performer!
Well, this is embarrasing…haha! Nerd day in High School!
I got to direct my high school choir at the WHITE HOUSE! So cool!!
Me and my mom sharing one of our passions together! <3
Senior Prom! I didn’t want to go, but I’m so glad I did!
Dad, Mom, my sister (Hannah) and me at my graduation party. Again, family is EVERYTHING.
The love of my life, and our favorite kiddos in the world!
(photo credit: Chelsea Anderson Photography)
(Photo credit: Bethanne Arthur Photography)
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